I am down with chicken-pox!! It sucks to be sick wen you have a kid of your own.It sucks to be quarantined from your own baby for almost a month.I have no idea how I will survive this.. I am sure Alvin will forget who I am. Damn the insecurities!!
I think by far the chicken-pox is the worst infection I have ever got.It is just the first few days which is tough to get through.Once the fever-phase is over, you will be up and about. But with all this liquid diet, I must have lost a few pounds.. That must be the only good thing about this disease.
Sunday, April 13, 2008
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
Ads: The good and the bad!!
I've been thinking of blogging about the advertisements that really irritate me and the ones that impress me..here are some samples of ones dat irritates me..These kind of ads should be banned along with the products!! ..and I hate any Ad dat Shahrukh khan comes in..Its guaranteed to have zero creativity!! Remember the infamous bath-tub ad for Lux??
All these ads will have a warning that these are done by professionals and shud not be imitated by anyone...in a print that will be so minuscule dat you have to use the Hubble telescope to read it!! Imagine the effect these ads can have on young kids.. At this impressionable age, do you think they will have the patience to read that excuse-for-a-warning in micro-print before attempting to imitate the stunt?! Who are these people sitting on the CBFC who allow these ads to be to be aired?!Crazy buggers!!
Then there are ads which really impress me with their creativity and the message. Of the ones I love watching, here are a few..
The MTR Gulab Jamun Ad(Cudnt find the video!).. where a mom makes Gulab Jamun for the kid cos he came 2nd in a running race and dad gets impressed.. When the dad asks how many ppl where in the race, the kids says.."Two!!" and runs.. Whatta sweet ad!! Reminds me how much fun childhood was... Sigh!
Then comes the Mentos Ad.. Dont know if anyone has really tried this idea in college?!
Recently, I saw this ad for Iodex which caught my attention..
All these ads will have a warning that these are done by professionals and shud not be imitated by anyone...in a print that will be so minuscule dat you have to use the Hubble telescope to read it!! Imagine the effect these ads can have on young kids.. At this impressionable age, do you think they will have the patience to read that excuse-for-a-warning in micro-print before attempting to imitate the stunt?! Who are these people sitting on the CBFC who allow these ads to be to be aired?!Crazy buggers!!
Then there are ads which really impress me with their creativity and the message. Of the ones I love watching, here are a few..
The MTR Gulab Jamun Ad(Cudnt find the video!).. where a mom makes Gulab Jamun for the kid cos he came 2nd in a running race and dad gets impressed.. When the dad asks how many ppl where in the race, the kids says.."Two!!" and runs.. Whatta sweet ad!! Reminds me how much fun childhood was... Sigh!
Then comes the Mentos Ad.. Dont know if anyone has really tried this idea in college?!
Recently, I saw this ad for Iodex which caught my attention..
Friday, November 02, 2007
Baby talk!!
I have a baby now.. I am a mother... phew!! Life will never be the same again. Parenting comes with one-the-job training..it freaks me out that someone's life is in my hands and I am responsible for them...it started the moment he was conceived.. somehow I feel that the nine months when my son was inside my womb was easier than this one month he has been out in the world. Sigh!! People keep telling me that the difficult years will just fly away like a dream..yet,somehow I am not able to look at my current plight as a dream when my son cries at my hands for apparently no reason and I have no idea why he is crying nor what I can do to help him..
I haven't had a whole night's sleep since the day he was born.I guess I will; once he flies away from my nest to make one of his own...and thats a long way to go... The only person keeping me sane in this mayhem is my husband..Thank you,Honey!! But, why is this thing so difficult?! difficult for me and the baby.. The only way my son articulates is by crying and that doesn't convey much to my birdbrain. The more he cries, the more helpless I get.. and it really pisses me off to see him pacified by someone else other than me... his crying only intensifies when he is in my arms and gets pacified the moment he is switched to someone else's arms.. how mean and rude of him?!
One thing this new way of life is making me realize is how great our parents are and how hair-raising the experience of bringing us up would have been for them...Trust me!! But still, I pick up fights with my mom on how wrongly she is doing things for my baby...and that I know the best for my baby. Then I have to tell myself that there is no one best way to bring up a kid.. there are only thousands of potentially best ones and it takes lots of patience, commitment and oodles of unconditional love to find the right one that works for you and your baby.
Wednesday, July 04, 2007
Who are these guys?!
I am really irritated about the hype created about this seven-wonders-election!! who are these people conducting this election?? What is the need for the election? why not preserve the ancient seven wonders of the world?! Who gave these people authority to elect the wonders of the world?
I remember leaning about seven wonders of the world in my history class in my childhood. To think that these will change every few years makes it less charming. In this age, everything is being made a joke. People cant let history be history.
How can they assume that every one has access to the net or phone?! In a developing nation like India, where there are millions who live without internet and telephone, how can this method of voting be made fair?! Does that mean people without access to internet and telephone will not enjoy these wonders?!
Its a sick method to vote for seven wonders of the world this way, let alone the sickness of thinking to elect one.The funny part is no one is protesting this craziness. All the news channels are only boosting the hype. Who is benefitting by all this revenue generated? There is nothing transparent in the process and every one is okay with it.
Nowadays, even beauty-contests are decided by public voting. Talent-show are no exceptions either. Nobody is realising that the business moguls are jus exploiting the regional/religious/ethnic/racial sentiments of the consumeristic population. Are you going to gain a single penny by voting for any of these events? NO!! Are the winners going to share their loot with you?! NO!! Then why vote for these events?!? Why make an already-stinking-rich person richer?!
Instead, this money can be donated to genuine social work groups who work for the betterment of the helpless and the needy. I really wish there is someone who feels the same way about this as I do.. sigh!!
I remember leaning about seven wonders of the world in my history class in my childhood. To think that these will change every few years makes it less charming. In this age, everything is being made a joke. People cant let history be history.
How can they assume that every one has access to the net or phone?! In a developing nation like India, where there are millions who live without internet and telephone, how can this method of voting be made fair?! Does that mean people without access to internet and telephone will not enjoy these wonders?!
Its a sick method to vote for seven wonders of the world this way, let alone the sickness of thinking to elect one.The funny part is no one is protesting this craziness. All the news channels are only boosting the hype. Who is benefitting by all this revenue generated? There is nothing transparent in the process and every one is okay with it.
Nowadays, even beauty-contests are decided by public voting. Talent-show are no exceptions either. Nobody is realising that the business moguls are jus exploiting the regional/religious/ethnic/racial sentiments of the consumeristic population. Are you going to gain a single penny by voting for any of these events? NO!! Are the winners going to share their loot with you?! NO!! Then why vote for these events?!? Why make an already-stinking-rich person richer?!
Instead, this money can be donated to genuine social work groups who work for the betterment of the helpless and the needy. I really wish there is someone who feels the same way about this as I do.. sigh!!
Monday, June 18, 2007
My birthdate means...
| Your Birthdate: June 20 |
 You are a virtual roller coaster of emotions, and most people enjoy the ride. Your mood tends to set the tone of the room, and when you're happy, this is a good thing. When you get in a dark mood, watch out - it's very hard to get you out of it. It's sometimes hard for you to cheer up, and your gloom can be contagious. Your strength: Your warm heart Your weakness: Trouble controlling your emotions Your power color: Black Your power symbol: Musical note Your power month: February |
Monday, March 12, 2007
Zen Estilo - A car with an identity crisis!!
I pity this car.. every time I see it on de road, it reminds me of some other car of some other brand but, never a Zen Estilo.. From the side view, it reminds me of a shorter version of a Toyota Innova, a Daewoo Matiz from the front and a weird car from the behind... Even its name is borrowed from our very own old Zen. When the model was so radically different from Zen, why did Maruti chose to retain the name Zen for this model also??
Truly a car with an identity crisis!!
Sunday, January 21, 2007
Why you shouldnt care about Celebrity Big Brother?
I dont understand why almost everyone in Indian politics and media are making a hue and cry over the Shilpa Shetty Episode in the reality show CelebrityBigBrother.Do they realise that there are worse incidents happening in the world in the name of race and caste?? why talk about the world when there are sick incidents happening in our own country?? There are still places in India where people are discriminated on the basis of cast,race and religion.
Why are the politicians talking for Shilpa Shetty? She is an actress who is getting paid for what she is going through. Why should the politicians and media cry racism when the lady in question herself is still going along with the charade?? Why doesnt she walk out of the show?? I will tell you why.. 'Cos there is fame and money involved in it. Who will walk out of a show where you have the chance of winning thousands of pounds, jus cos somebody called you a four-legged creature?!?
The politicians are behaving as though she is representing India. The world outside India thinks of the likes of Shilpa Shetty and Aishwarya Roy when they think of India. What a shame?!? What have these people achieved in their lives to bring India any good?? The real India is represented by the scientists it brings into this world, by the engineers it makes out of its citizens,the enonomists and the academicians, the philosophers, the artists , the sportspersons , the enterpreneurs who give back the society what they got from it...
Dont politicians have better things to do?? They are following this episode as if they have finished their duties for this country and this is the only thing thats happening around them. Why dont they do anything about the casteism rampant in Indian villages. Why dont they do something for this country?? I have still not seen a true patriot in any politician in our country. Why is our political scenario filled with oldies?? They dont have the strength to even walk around. All of them are spineless losers who go back on their words to suit their political careers..
The country's development starts from its citizens. Every one should have civic sense. Why will there be traffic-jams if every one follows the traffic rules?? Why dont the people fear the traffic police?? I will tell you why.. Cos every one knows that they can handle the traffic-police with some cash in hand... If the traffic police are strict in their duties, nobody will flout the traffic rules.
Why is India still a developing country even after 50 odd years of independence?? Look at Japan. Look at Singapore. These are countries which were more backwards than our country. Look at the development there.Discipline is instilled in every individual at the very basic level. They grow up to be citizens with civic sense. I guess it is difficult to change India overnight. That explains why we have hit movies like Indian and Anniyan where a common man has the happiness of seeing corrupt politicians and government officials brought to punishment, which he can never see in reality. I remember a story I heard a while ago...
"There was a 20 year old guy who wanted to change his country. He worked hard for decade but he couldn't do much. so, he decided that he will change his state at least. He tried hard to change his state and make it better. He fails. so, at 30 years of age, he decides to do something about his district. He works hard to make his district better. He realises that he has failed after years of hardship. So, at 40 years of age, he decides to do something about his city and make it a better place to live in. How much can a guy do with a city of irresponsible people?!? He realises that he cant do much to his city either. So, at 50 years of age he decides to give up working for his city and tries to change his street and the people living in it. At the ripe age of 60, He realises that he cannot change the people in his street. So, he decides to change the people in his family. At the old age of 70, he realises that he cannot change the people around him. The only person he can change is himself. But, its too late for him to do anything..."
The development of a nation lies in the hands of its individual citizens... and how can a country become a developed nation when its citizens dont care for the country?!?
Note: I started somewhere and ended up somewhere else. I guess I jus poured out all the pent up frustrations about our country.
Why are the politicians talking for Shilpa Shetty? She is an actress who is getting paid for what she is going through. Why should the politicians and media cry racism when the lady in question herself is still going along with the charade?? Why doesnt she walk out of the show?? I will tell you why.. 'Cos there is fame and money involved in it. Who will walk out of a show where you have the chance of winning thousands of pounds, jus cos somebody called you a four-legged creature?!?
The politicians are behaving as though she is representing India. The world outside India thinks of the likes of Shilpa Shetty and Aishwarya Roy when they think of India. What a shame?!? What have these people achieved in their lives to bring India any good?? The real India is represented by the scientists it brings into this world, by the engineers it makes out of its citizens,the enonomists and the academicians, the philosophers, the artists , the sportspersons , the enterpreneurs who give back the society what they got from it...
Dont politicians have better things to do?? They are following this episode as if they have finished their duties for this country and this is the only thing thats happening around them. Why dont they do anything about the casteism rampant in Indian villages. Why dont they do something for this country?? I have still not seen a true patriot in any politician in our country. Why is our political scenario filled with oldies?? They dont have the strength to even walk around. All of them are spineless losers who go back on their words to suit their political careers..
The country's development starts from its citizens. Every one should have civic sense. Why will there be traffic-jams if every one follows the traffic rules?? Why dont the people fear the traffic police?? I will tell you why.. Cos every one knows that they can handle the traffic-police with some cash in hand... If the traffic police are strict in their duties, nobody will flout the traffic rules.
Why is India still a developing country even after 50 odd years of independence?? Look at Japan. Look at Singapore. These are countries which were more backwards than our country. Look at the development there.Discipline is instilled in every individual at the very basic level. They grow up to be citizens with civic sense. I guess it is difficult to change India overnight. That explains why we have hit movies like Indian and Anniyan where a common man has the happiness of seeing corrupt politicians and government officials brought to punishment, which he can never see in reality. I remember a story I heard a while ago...
"There was a 20 year old guy who wanted to change his country. He worked hard for decade but he couldn't do much. so, he decided that he will change his state at least. He tried hard to change his state and make it better. He fails. so, at 30 years of age, he decides to do something about his district. He works hard to make his district better. He realises that he has failed after years of hardship. So, at 40 years of age, he decides to do something about his city and make it a better place to live in. How much can a guy do with a city of irresponsible people?!? He realises that he cant do much to his city either. So, at 50 years of age he decides to give up working for his city and tries to change his street and the people living in it. At the ripe age of 60, He realises that he cannot change the people in his street. So, he decides to change the people in his family. At the old age of 70, he realises that he cannot change the people around him. The only person he can change is himself. But, its too late for him to do anything..."
The development of a nation lies in the hands of its individual citizens... and how can a country become a developed nation when its citizens dont care for the country?!?
Note: I started somewhere and ended up somewhere else. I guess I jus poured out all the pent up frustrations about our country.
Monday, December 25, 2006
Its that time of the year again...
For those who wonder what time of the year it is... let me explain... It is the end of the year when one looks back dismally at all the broken resolutions and think of new ones to break the coming year. The funny part is I dont even rememeber my resolution for the year 2006. :-(
What shall I take as a resolution for year 2007?!!?!? Oh..now I remember...I am going to decide never to go shopping to a super-market when I am hungry. I recently did so and I ended up buying a lotta junk food. I think this one resolution is enough for me lose lotta pounds...
I am looking forward to the new year.... let me see...what it brings me and my family....
Happy holidays to everyone and have a happy 2007!!!
Cheers,
Josie
What shall I take as a resolution for year 2007?!!?!? Oh..now I remember...I am going to decide never to go shopping to a super-market when I am hungry. I recently did so and I ended up buying a lotta junk food. I think this one resolution is enough for me lose lotta pounds...
I am looking forward to the new year.... let me see...what it brings me and my family....
Happy holidays to everyone and have a happy 2007!!!
Cheers,
Josie
Wednesday, November 15, 2006
Million dollar question!!
Almost every other guy I come across nowadays is a jerk...It disappoints me to know that the rare breed of fine gentlemen is dwindling...I hope it doesnt reach the point of extinction. Some guys aren't jus made for any relationships, I feel. People dont know what to do next in a relationship. They really dont know how to take a relationship into the next level.
But, the thing is, if the person is really planning his/her next move, then he/she ceases to be themselves and become a pretence of a nice person. In that case, I prefer a jerk.. atleast, I can find out wat they really are and stay away from them. They are natural... ;-)
Someone had asked me earlier as to why women are such complex beings?? Now, I have a question.. why men are such jerks?! I guess no one will know why... :-(
But, the thing is, if the person is really planning his/her next move, then he/she ceases to be themselves and become a pretence of a nice person. In that case, I prefer a jerk.. atleast, I can find out wat they really are and stay away from them. They are natural... ;-)
Someone had asked me earlier as to why women are such complex beings?? Now, I have a question.. why men are such jerks?! I guess no one will know why... :-(
Wednesday, November 08, 2006
Reality shows...What a pain!!!
I have been getting enraged by the spate of reality shows. Everything has been commercialised in this age.From religion to people's emotions..jus every damn thing has been commercialised. If you want to make money out of people's emotions, start a reality show. Its a pain to come back home from a long day's work jus to see people crying over some crazy show or a "me-knows-it-all" judge criticizing a hapless contestant ruthlessly. C'mon!! I jus hate to see the haughty judges dissecting the bewildered contestants, shredding them into oblivion.
I happened to see the auditions for the Roadies reality show in MTv.Whatta pathetic show!! It jus manipulates the emotions of the young crowd who are going through a serious case of identity crisis. I saw three judges including the infamous Mika Singh yelling at the aspirants of this lousy show. Maybe they deserved it for wanting to be on the show!! Who gave the power for the judges to yell at anybody?!? I was outraged... Wats de necessity for the kids to come all they way to a lousy studio to get yelled by some third person?!? The foolishness of the people there was too much for me to take..
I remember another show called America's Next Top Model. Number One: I hate reality shows. Number Two: I hate the benchmark for models and super-models. So,this was my favourite show to hate. Why do the models have to look ugly all the time?? I cant remember one girl who looked lovely and divine in that show. For this they have 3 judges who talk as if they invented fashion.
All this reality shows only cultivate negative thoughts in people. It motivates the people to achieve their goals by hook or crook.Many a times, the end doesn't justify the means.People forget ethics and become manipulative. Every reality show will have a rule called vote-out wherein the contestants have to vote-out one among them.It is jus a way to play with the cruel feelings of the contestants.These shows force you to think negatively, force you to plot against the people around you. Almost every reality show will bring out the bad you.
I feel that the reality shows are a negative influence on people and its a gross waste of time and energy!!! I jus had to rant about these shows as they are hogging the show time of my favourite comedy sitcoms.Grrrrrr!!!!
I happened to see the auditions for the Roadies reality show in MTv.Whatta pathetic show!! It jus manipulates the emotions of the young crowd who are going through a serious case of identity crisis. I saw three judges including the infamous Mika Singh yelling at the aspirants of this lousy show. Maybe they deserved it for wanting to be on the show!! Who gave the power for the judges to yell at anybody?!? I was outraged... Wats de necessity for the kids to come all they way to a lousy studio to get yelled by some third person?!? The foolishness of the people there was too much for me to take..
I remember another show called America's Next Top Model. Number One: I hate reality shows. Number Two: I hate the benchmark for models and super-models. So,this was my favourite show to hate. Why do the models have to look ugly all the time?? I cant remember one girl who looked lovely and divine in that show. For this they have 3 judges who talk as if they invented fashion.
All this reality shows only cultivate negative thoughts in people. It motivates the people to achieve their goals by hook or crook.Many a times, the end doesn't justify the means.People forget ethics and become manipulative. Every reality show will have a rule called vote-out wherein the contestants have to vote-out one among them.It is jus a way to play with the cruel feelings of the contestants.These shows force you to think negatively, force you to plot against the people around you. Almost every reality show will bring out the bad you.
I feel that the reality shows are a negative influence on people and its a gross waste of time and energy!!! I jus had to rant about these shows as they are hogging the show time of my favourite comedy sitcoms.Grrrrrr!!!!
Wednesday, September 20, 2006
Why do I want to do so many things at a time?!
Is it because I am a Gemini?! You have no idea how many things I have started but never finished... When I was a kid, I wanted to be a painter...I pestered my parents to get me water-colors, paint-brushes et al...only to see them lying in a dusty corner of my house a month after. Then I started learning Piano...for a lil more than 2 years...gave up piano classes to concentrate better on studies...
I was doing some embroidery on and off till I went to college I learnt it mostly from my mom and other DIY books...In college,I took up tatting from a friend of mine.I made some really cute edgings,book-marks and dat was all... I also did some tapestry...made frames of scenaries...Then there was a long break after which I started doing some glass-painting. I made some frames of abstract and non-abstract images..
Presently, I have shifted my attention to knitting. I am planning to join knitting classes and feed my fire.. ;-) I never wanted or want to be the best in any art form. But I have to learn all of them. The moment I get the urge to learn something, I move heaven and earth to get the materials, research about it and start off.And mostly, I learn things on my own and out of my own interest.
One thing I have noticed is..I rarely keep the things I make to myself. It has always been gifted to some friend of mine or other. Maybe it is my way of showing dat I love..maybe I want ppl to appreciate the thought and the effort that went into that small piece of art... Maybe I want my gifts to be a lil personal...maybe I am a lil old-fashioned...
I was doing some embroidery on and off till I went to college I learnt it mostly from my mom and other DIY books...In college,I took up tatting from a friend of mine.I made some really cute edgings,book-marks and dat was all... I also did some tapestry...made frames of scenaries...Then there was a long break after which I started doing some glass-painting. I made some frames of abstract and non-abstract images..
Presently, I have shifted my attention to knitting. I am planning to join knitting classes and feed my fire.. ;-) I never wanted or want to be the best in any art form. But I have to learn all of them. The moment I get the urge to learn something, I move heaven and earth to get the materials, research about it and start off.And mostly, I learn things on my own and out of my own interest.
One thing I have noticed is..I rarely keep the things I make to myself. It has always been gifted to some friend of mine or other. Maybe it is my way of showing dat I love..maybe I want ppl to appreciate the thought and the effort that went into that small piece of art... Maybe I want my gifts to be a lil personal...maybe I am a lil old-fashioned...
Thursday, September 07, 2006
My EQ!!
My EQ is 133 |
 50 or less: Thanks for answering honestly. Now get yourself a shrink, quick! 51-70: When it comes to understanding human emotions, you'd have better luck understanding Chinese. 71-90: You've got more emotional intelligence than the average frat boy. Barely. 91-110: You're average. It's easy to predict how you'll react to things. But anyone could have guessed that. 111-130: You usually have it going on emotionally, but roadblocks tend to land you on your butt. 131-150: You are remarkable when it comes to relating with others. Only the biggest losers get under your skin. 150+: Two possibilities - you've either out "Dr. Phil-ed" Dr. Phil... or you're a dirty liar. |
Tuesday, August 29, 2006
To my parents...
Jus a few days back I was thinking of my olden days...(not that I am very old)when I was in college...when my priorities were different...life was care-free then. I remember how lonely and petrified I felt when my parents left me at my college hostel and went away. Four years seemed like a millennium on dat day and yet I dont know how those four years flew away.
I learnt a lot in those four years. I learnt that you cannot trust everyone you see...that people come into and go out of your life and it is definitely your choice whether they will stay back in your life forever or not.
I also learnt that, even though parents seem like to be living in the previous century, it is good to listen to their words and obey them. It was those four years when I learnt to be independent...to take decisions of my own...realised that the world is filled with people, both good and bad.
I learnt not to regret the decisions I made for myself but to face its consequences head-on. I learnt to be true to myself..to follow my impulsive whims and desires with great zeal...to do justice to your role and responsibilities you have accepted...to enjoy life for the moment...which means to enjoy being a wife...to enjoy being a daughter...to enjoy being a daughter-in-law...to enjoy being a career-woman...to enjoy being a friend...a confidante..to enjoy life!
I learnt that God is there to help you through during tough times and His way of solving your problems are never your way of dealing with it and it is always better to leave troubles into His hands cos he is good at handling them for you. I learnt the valuable lesson that not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck...
My stay away from home made my visits to home precious. I am forever thankful to my parents for letting me stay away from home during those formative years of my life, for letting me learn life's lessons on my own...for letting me go... I still have a long way to go..but I do know that I have made a good start...
Thanks a lot, Mom and Dad...
I love you.
I learnt a lot in those four years. I learnt that you cannot trust everyone you see...that people come into and go out of your life and it is definitely your choice whether they will stay back in your life forever or not.
I also learnt that, even though parents seem like to be living in the previous century, it is good to listen to their words and obey them. It was those four years when I learnt to be independent...to take decisions of my own...realised that the world is filled with people, both good and bad.
I learnt not to regret the decisions I made for myself but to face its consequences head-on. I learnt to be true to myself..to follow my impulsive whims and desires with great zeal...to do justice to your role and responsibilities you have accepted...to enjoy life for the moment...which means to enjoy being a wife...to enjoy being a daughter...to enjoy being a daughter-in-law...to enjoy being a career-woman...to enjoy being a friend...a confidante..to enjoy life!
I learnt that God is there to help you through during tough times and His way of solving your problems are never your way of dealing with it and it is always better to leave troubles into His hands cos he is good at handling them for you. I learnt the valuable lesson that not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck...
My stay away from home made my visits to home precious. I am forever thankful to my parents for letting me stay away from home during those formative years of my life, for letting me learn life's lessons on my own...for letting me go... I still have a long way to go..but I do know that I have made a good start...
Thanks a lot, Mom and Dad...
I love you.
Thursday, June 29, 2006
Some serious blogging!!
This piece of write-up was written by me years ago and I was looking for a medium to publish it... now that I blog here often, let me put it up here...
Love and be loved!!!
How often have you found yourself in a relationship in which you feel that you are only giving and not getting anything?! Have you ever felt exhausted in any relationship?!? There are lotsa hearts sailing in this boat...
But why do we get this feeling?? Any relationship - be it love or friendship- is a give and take thing. It is in the hands of the people involved in the relationship to keep this equation balanced on both the sides...
What is meant by "giving"?? Giving doesnt only mean the exchange of expensive gifts, treats, candle light dinners et al... It also includes the simple things in day-to-day life, as simple as a phone call to your beloved at the least expected moment, a cute SMS at the busiest hour of the day(no forwards, pls!!), a hand-written snail-mail, any pleasant surprise...any simple thing that has your personal touch...
Deeds which let the other person know that you were thinking of them when you weren't with them goes a long way in strengthening a relationship.It is the thought that goes with the deed that makes the other person's day. So, start acting on your thoughts.
What is meant by "taking"??It is the art of acknowledging whatever you've got from your friend or your beloved. Make them feel appreciated for their sweetness.Thank them and let them know that your day was made because of their thoughtful actions. Give them back you love in your own subtle way.
When do you feel exhausted?? You will feel exhausted when your friend or your love just seems happy in taking from you and gives you back less or even worse, nothing. Girls feel it the most because they love to be pampered and cherished. Therefore, a little neglect from the gentleman's side will seem like a colossal error to his lady. So, all ya men-folks out there, make a mental note of this!!
What do you do when you find yourself at the wrong end of the deal?!?Express your need to your partner in a subtle way without offending his/her feelings. Let them know that you love them still.Be not disappointed by their thoughtlessness the next time. Nobody can change themselves overnight. Give your partner the time he/she needs to evolve into a thoughtful person..
Do not let your relationship die because of something as simple as this. Do not let the "giving" and "taking" become an obligation. Let it be a favour, a pleasure you enjoy doing. Let it be subtle and spontaneous. It is this everyday romance that keeps the flame burning in any relationship.Everyone should give a look at the relationships we share with people around us and ask "when was the last time I did something nice to him/her?? Am I in emotional debt??Am I giving less??" Any imbalance is unhealthy.
If everyone gives more, then no one gets less... Let us make those who love us feel loved...
How often have you found yourself in a relationship in which you feel that you are only giving and not getting anything?! Have you ever felt exhausted in any relationship?!? There are lotsa hearts sailing in this boat...
But why do we get this feeling?? Any relationship - be it love or friendship- is a give and take thing. It is in the hands of the people involved in the relationship to keep this equation balanced on both the sides...
What is meant by "giving"?? Giving doesnt only mean the exchange of expensive gifts, treats, candle light dinners et al... It also includes the simple things in day-to-day life, as simple as a phone call to your beloved at the least expected moment, a cute SMS at the busiest hour of the day(no forwards, pls!!), a hand-written snail-mail, any pleasant surprise...any simple thing that has your personal touch...
Deeds which let the other person know that you were thinking of them when you weren't with them goes a long way in strengthening a relationship.It is the thought that goes with the deed that makes the other person's day. So, start acting on your thoughts.
What is meant by "taking"??It is the art of acknowledging whatever you've got from your friend or your beloved. Make them feel appreciated for their sweetness.Thank them and let them know that your day was made because of their thoughtful actions. Give them back you love in your own subtle way.
When do you feel exhausted?? You will feel exhausted when your friend or your love just seems happy in taking from you and gives you back less or even worse, nothing. Girls feel it the most because they love to be pampered and cherished. Therefore, a little neglect from the gentleman's side will seem like a colossal error to his lady. So, all ya men-folks out there, make a mental note of this!!
What do you do when you find yourself at the wrong end of the deal?!?Express your need to your partner in a subtle way without offending his/her feelings. Let them know that you love them still.Be not disappointed by their thoughtlessness the next time. Nobody can change themselves overnight. Give your partner the time he/she needs to evolve into a thoughtful person..
Do not let your relationship die because of something as simple as this. Do not let the "giving" and "taking" become an obligation. Let it be a favour, a pleasure you enjoy doing. Let it be subtle and spontaneous. It is this everyday romance that keeps the flame burning in any relationship.Everyone should give a look at the relationships we share with people around us and ask "when was the last time I did something nice to him/her?? Am I in emotional debt??Am I giving less??" Any imbalance is unhealthy.
If everyone gives more, then no one gets less... Let us make those who love us feel loved...
Monday, June 26, 2006
Metro-shopping!!!
How often have you been traumatized by the price-tag of a piece of bling jewellery in a hi-fi metro shopping mall?!? The other day I entered a pricey "vidheshi" outlet only to find dat a gypsy skirt which looked like a piece of rag dat my dog plundered, costs around 3k in INR. Looks like they are selling it in Dollars... lol... Why wud any moron pay 3 grand to buy a ragged piece of cloth?!?! Thats why I prefer window shopping... ;-)
You see any fashion show done by the leading designers of this planet...you can see a lotta clothing which cannot be worn by any normal human being... Not everyone one is a normal person who is living in an abnormal world,you see... then why design such clothes?!?! I am unable to relate to any of their line of clothes...such gross waste of money and material!! I am not against designing something which can be worn by normal people as daily-wear...
This reminds me of the clothing our heroines wear in the bollywood film industry nowadays... Its even a shame to call that piece of cloth as costume.. and for this, they have a designated costume-designer... There is so much sleaze in the film industry nowadays that everyone is trying to out-do it to get a better profit... and it only gets worse... I cant even imagine our film industry after 20 years... I wish these ppl leave something for our imagination... ;-)
You see any fashion show done by the leading designers of this planet...you can see a lotta clothing which cannot be worn by any normal human being... Not everyone one is a normal person who is living in an abnormal world,you see... then why design such clothes?!?! I am unable to relate to any of their line of clothes...such gross waste of money and material!! I am not against designing something which can be worn by normal people as daily-wear...
This reminds me of the clothing our heroines wear in the bollywood film industry nowadays... Its even a shame to call that piece of cloth as costume.. and for this, they have a designated costume-designer... There is so much sleaze in the film industry nowadays that everyone is trying to out-do it to get a better profit... and it only gets worse... I cant even imagine our film industry after 20 years... I wish these ppl leave something for our imagination... ;-)
Monday, June 19, 2006
That wonderful thing called Marriage!!!
I have started advising marriage to all my single friends... Almost everyone who is single will be told by their married friends to "make hay while their sun shines"... esp. guys. That is because one looks at marriage as a loss of freedom. But why?!?! Consider it as a different way of life...
Marriage does come with untold expectations and responsibilities. Only people who have the maturity to face life as it comes should step into the world of marriage. Marriage is not for escapists. It is for people who are willing to face situations and take decisions. It is for people willing to compromise with a happy heart for the one they love.
But, very often we become hypocrites without realising so. We expect how we should be treated in marriage.But we forget to cross-check if we are treating our spouses the same way. Often it is the most trivial of things that will affect our happiness in marriage. All we have to do is to realise when things are going wrong and decide to make amends for it.
Life is fun when you share it with someone... You live your life, achieve great heights professionally, go through a lotta experiences... but what is the point if you dont have anyone to share it with?!? As they said in a movie, "We need a witness to our lives... and that is why we need marriage..."
Marriage does come with untold expectations and responsibilities. Only people who have the maturity to face life as it comes should step into the world of marriage. Marriage is not for escapists. It is for people who are willing to face situations and take decisions. It is for people willing to compromise with a happy heart for the one they love.
But, very often we become hypocrites without realising so. We expect how we should be treated in marriage.But we forget to cross-check if we are treating our spouses the same way. Often it is the most trivial of things that will affect our happiness in marriage. All we have to do is to realise when things are going wrong and decide to make amends for it.
Life is fun when you share it with someone... You live your life, achieve great heights professionally, go through a lotta experiences... but what is the point if you dont have anyone to share it with?!? As they said in a movie, "We need a witness to our lives... and that is why we need marriage..."
Tuesday, May 16, 2006
Bad drivers 007 - licensed to kill
Only after we bought a car did I realise what a menace the other drivers on the road are.. Last night, we bought a car and drove back home. I was very gingerly with my car. All these years, I have taken my father's car for a drive, I never felt the funny feeling in my stomach...a feeling that nothing should happen to the car and of course, the ppl inside the car. ;-)
The road-users here are maniacs waiting to pounce on the fellow road-users... Not a single person has proper road sense here. I am surprised...Is it because of lack of education and awareness or is it because of the eternal need of man to hasten things up..?!?! Education goes a long way in creating an awareness in people's mind, be it road-sense or anything...
The funniest part is even educated people are also behaving like maniacs. Last night, we were stuck in a bad traffic jam which is unusual here. The reason was: A narrow railway bridge being constricted by road-users of both the lanes. I dont know who came to the conclusion that by hogging both the lanes of the road, one can get home faster. C'mon.. it is common sense that going in a single file will free-up the ceongestion.
where are the educated people in this town?? I have to be very careful driving in this town.I dont wanna get my car scratched at the sides... The problem is even if you are careful, you cant help it if the others around you are maniacs... sigh!!!
The road-users here are maniacs waiting to pounce on the fellow road-users... Not a single person has proper road sense here. I am surprised...Is it because of lack of education and awareness or is it because of the eternal need of man to hasten things up..?!?! Education goes a long way in creating an awareness in people's mind, be it road-sense or anything...
The funniest part is even educated people are also behaving like maniacs. Last night, we were stuck in a bad traffic jam which is unusual here. The reason was: A narrow railway bridge being constricted by road-users of both the lanes. I dont know who came to the conclusion that by hogging both the lanes of the road, one can get home faster. C'mon.. it is common sense that going in a single file will free-up the ceongestion.
where are the educated people in this town?? I have to be very careful driving in this town.I dont wanna get my car scratched at the sides... The problem is even if you are careful, you cant help it if the others around you are maniacs... sigh!!!
Thursday, March 23, 2006
blogging after a long time...
life has changed and I have to look after a family now. I have to cook for one more person and take care of them... managing a career and family is a delicate thing. The main secret behind a successful career woman is keeping the work-life and the family-life separate. Dont bring your work-space issues to your home and dont bring your family issues to your work. Thats the best one can do to juggle between work anf family... And thats what I am doing...happily.. :-)
Wednesday, December 21, 2005
I am blank..
Why do I go blank when I sit down to write a blog?!?! Beats me!!!
Relationships - they make you or break you!!! How do we handle bad relationships?? The sad part is we realise it is a bad relationship only when things start getting outta hands... and by the time we decide to call it off, the damage would have been done...
Human mind is the most complex thing ever known to man. No two persons think alike in this world... No two relationships are same either. The more we move with a person, the more we tend to like them. Familiarity is the essential ingredient in a relationship in its budding stages. This stage is called the "Out of sight, Out of mind - stage". This is when the first impression is made which decides the future of a relationship.
Then comes the "Wanna know you better - stage". This is when we get in touch with each other often and gradually get to know the other person. We compare our likes and dislikes. We decide whether we can handle the other person's thought-process, their likes and dislikes. This stage forms the foundation for any relationship.
Then comes the "Cant live without you - stage". This is the stage where people start getting possessive of the other. Expectations run high and girls start thinking about commitments and long-term plans... Days wont go well if we dont hear from the only person who means the world to us. Guys will be freaked out if girls bring up the topic of commitment - not ony at this stage, at any stage, unless they arent serious. If the guy start distancing himself from the girl after they discussed about commitment, it is better to let him go. He is not the kind to settle down with. If he decides to stick to you, but still doesnt wanna commit, give him another chance and wait as long enough as you can.
But, dont keep fooling yourself that you dont have any feelings for the other person, cos there will come a time when you have to take decisions for your life and you will be left in a lurch. Decide what you wanna do with the other person and then proceed. Otherwise, you will end up hurting yourself or the other person. Dont give the other person false hopes. After all, life should be hassle-free.
Then comes the "Life is good-stage". The more the relationship falls into a routine, the more you will be lulled by a feeling of security, till reality wakes you up with a jolt. I am trying not to be a pessimist about relationships, but reality bites, doesnt it?? Both of you are comfortable with each other and understand how the other person works and handle each other better. There will be some "Gosh!! Am I lucky or wat- days" and some "God!! Gimme a break- days" and life goes on like this.
Then comes a time when you have to really decide on the course of your life and ask the other person about their plans with you. This is called the "Please say Yes - stage". This stage might end in bliss or break-up which reminds me to talk about break-ups. Break-up teaches you to be stronger and makes you realise how strong you are. Let me tell you, you will be surprised to know how strong you are. Studies show that women are better people in handling emotional stress. But this doesnt mean that they are happy in moving on after a break-up. A break-up affects both the sexes equally. It is the extent to which we let it affect us, decides how we move on and how good we can handle it.
There is no point in prolonging a relationship which doesnt make you happy. There are two types of break-up according to me - the one that happens when you are still in love and the one that happens after you have started hating each other. The latter is easier to handle. The former leaves you traumatised... But, dont give up hopes. There is always a better person waiting for you. I dont believe in the thought..."Let go of a person. If they come back to you, they are yours. If they dont, they never were.."
Loving and losing are part of lessons life teaches us... Dont miss it. Lucky are the ones who learn it the hard way... Keep learning!!!
Ciao!!!
Relationships - they make you or break you!!! How do we handle bad relationships?? The sad part is we realise it is a bad relationship only when things start getting outta hands... and by the time we decide to call it off, the damage would have been done...
Human mind is the most complex thing ever known to man. No two persons think alike in this world... No two relationships are same either. The more we move with a person, the more we tend to like them. Familiarity is the essential ingredient in a relationship in its budding stages. This stage is called the "Out of sight, Out of mind - stage". This is when the first impression is made which decides the future of a relationship.
Then comes the "Wanna know you better - stage". This is when we get in touch with each other often and gradually get to know the other person. We compare our likes and dislikes. We decide whether we can handle the other person's thought-process, their likes and dislikes. This stage forms the foundation for any relationship.
Then comes the "Cant live without you - stage". This is the stage where people start getting possessive of the other. Expectations run high and girls start thinking about commitments and long-term plans... Days wont go well if we dont hear from the only person who means the world to us. Guys will be freaked out if girls bring up the topic of commitment - not ony at this stage, at any stage, unless they arent serious. If the guy start distancing himself from the girl after they discussed about commitment, it is better to let him go. He is not the kind to settle down with. If he decides to stick to you, but still doesnt wanna commit, give him another chance and wait as long enough as you can.
But, dont keep fooling yourself that you dont have any feelings for the other person, cos there will come a time when you have to take decisions for your life and you will be left in a lurch. Decide what you wanna do with the other person and then proceed. Otherwise, you will end up hurting yourself or the other person. Dont give the other person false hopes. After all, life should be hassle-free.
Then comes the "Life is good-stage". The more the relationship falls into a routine, the more you will be lulled by a feeling of security, till reality wakes you up with a jolt. I am trying not to be a pessimist about relationships, but reality bites, doesnt it?? Both of you are comfortable with each other and understand how the other person works and handle each other better. There will be some "Gosh!! Am I lucky or wat- days" and some "God!! Gimme a break- days" and life goes on like this.
Then comes a time when you have to really decide on the course of your life and ask the other person about their plans with you. This is called the "Please say Yes - stage". This stage might end in bliss or break-up which reminds me to talk about break-ups. Break-up teaches you to be stronger and makes you realise how strong you are. Let me tell you, you will be surprised to know how strong you are. Studies show that women are better people in handling emotional stress. But this doesnt mean that they are happy in moving on after a break-up. A break-up affects both the sexes equally. It is the extent to which we let it affect us, decides how we move on and how good we can handle it.
There is no point in prolonging a relationship which doesnt make you happy. There are two types of break-up according to me - the one that happens when you are still in love and the one that happens after you have started hating each other. The latter is easier to handle. The former leaves you traumatised... But, dont give up hopes. There is always a better person waiting for you. I dont believe in the thought..."Let go of a person. If they come back to you, they are yours. If they dont, they never were.."
Loving and losing are part of lessons life teaches us... Dont miss it. Lucky are the ones who learn it the hard way... Keep learning!!!
Ciao!!!
Friday, December 16, 2005
Trying to cheer myself up..
I have been a bit moody these few days and I want to cheer myself up... Have been binging on chocolate like there is no tomorrow. Wat is it with this chocolate and mood-swings?!?!
Let me divert myself from my mood...
How does it feel to be a tech-illiterate in this tech-savvy world?!?! Do you feel handicapped?!?! Can you do without Email and Telephone for a day?? Maybe a day or two.. but No!! not more than that... Not for people who have been growing with a good dose of technology... But YES!! yes for people who never felt the need of technology to a humungous extent.
My Mom and Dad are in their fifties and neither of them have an email account. Neither of them know how to go about a computer. And their line of work doesnt expect them to know comupters either. I call these people survivors, when every damn field of work is being invaded by computers.
There was a news article on a plan to digitize every thing on paper. Nothing beats the feel of curling up with your favourite book in your cosy bed. Can you snuggle with your PC or your Notebook?? NO!! I have so many e-books in my PC but I havent yet opened a single one of 'em. Nothing like the feel of writing a hand-written letter and receiving one... An e-mail, how much ever personal and intimate it might be, doesnt give the same feel as a snail-mail...
One doesnt have to travel back in time to keep the older means and medium of communication intact. One can find a balance between the older and modern medium of communication. So, go out and write a snail-mail to your beloved... put your thoughts in pen and paper... buy your all-time favourite book and settle down with a cuppa in your cosy couch and get lost in time...
Till then...
Ciao!!!
Let me divert myself from my mood...
How does it feel to be a tech-illiterate in this tech-savvy world?!?! Do you feel handicapped?!?! Can you do without Email and Telephone for a day?? Maybe a day or two.. but No!! not more than that... Not for people who have been growing with a good dose of technology... But YES!! yes for people who never felt the need of technology to a humungous extent.
My Mom and Dad are in their fifties and neither of them have an email account. Neither of them know how to go about a computer. And their line of work doesnt expect them to know comupters either. I call these people survivors, when every damn field of work is being invaded by computers.
There was a news article on a plan to digitize every thing on paper. Nothing beats the feel of curling up with your favourite book in your cosy bed. Can you snuggle with your PC or your Notebook?? NO!! I have so many e-books in my PC but I havent yet opened a single one of 'em. Nothing like the feel of writing a hand-written letter and receiving one... An e-mail, how much ever personal and intimate it might be, doesnt give the same feel as a snail-mail...
One doesnt have to travel back in time to keep the older means and medium of communication intact. One can find a balance between the older and modern medium of communication. So, go out and write a snail-mail to your beloved... put your thoughts in pen and paper... buy your all-time favourite book and settle down with a cuppa in your cosy couch and get lost in time...
Till then...
Ciao!!!
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