Thursday, June 29, 2006

Some serious blogging!!

This piece of write-up was written by me years ago and I was looking for a medium to publish it... now that I blog here often, let me put it up here...

Love and be loved!!!

How often have you found yourself in a relationship in which you feel that you are only giving and not getting anything?! Have you ever felt exhausted in any relationship?!? There are lotsa hearts sailing in this boat...

But why do we get this feeling?? Any relationship - be it love or friendship- is a give and take thing. It is in the hands of the people involved in the relationship to keep this equation balanced on both the sides...

What is meant by "giving"?? Giving doesnt only mean the exchange of expensive gifts, treats, candle light dinners et al... It also includes the simple things in day-to-day life, as simple as a phone call to your beloved at the least expected moment, a cute SMS at the busiest hour of the day(no forwards, pls!!), a hand-written snail-mail, any pleasant surprise...any simple thing that has your personal touch...

Deeds which let the other person know that you were thinking of them when you weren't with them goes a long way in strengthening a relationship.It is the thought that goes with the deed that makes the other person's day. So, start acting on your thoughts.

What is meant by "taking"??It is the art of acknowledging whatever you've got from your friend or your beloved. Make them feel appreciated for their sweetness.Thank them and let them know that your day was made because of their thoughtful actions. Give them back you love in your own subtle way.

When do you feel exhausted?? You will feel exhausted when your friend or your love just seems happy in taking from you and gives you back less or even worse, nothing. Girls feel it the most because they love to be pampered and cherished. Therefore, a little neglect from the gentleman's side will seem like a colossal error to his lady. So, all ya men-folks out there, make a mental note of this!!

What do you do when you find yourself at the wrong end of the deal?!?Express your need to your partner in a subtle way without offending his/her feelings. Let them know that you love them still.Be not disappointed by their thoughtlessness the next time. Nobody can change themselves overnight. Give your partner the time he/she needs to evolve into a thoughtful person..

Do not let your relationship die because of something as simple as this. Do not let the "giving" and "taking" become an obligation. Let it be a favour, a pleasure you enjoy doing. Let it be subtle and spontaneous. It is this everyday romance that keeps the flame burning in any relationship.Everyone should give a look at the relationships we share with people around us and ask "when was the last time I did something nice to him/her?? Am I in emotional debt??Am I giving less??" Any imbalance is unhealthy.

If everyone gives more, then no one gets less... Let us make those who love us feel loved...

Monday, June 26, 2006

Metro-shopping!!!

How often have you been traumatized by the price-tag of a piece of bling jewellery in a hi-fi metro shopping mall?!? The other day I entered a pricey "vidheshi" outlet only to find dat a gypsy skirt which looked like a piece of rag dat my dog plundered, costs around 3k in INR. Looks like they are selling it in Dollars... lol... Why wud any moron pay 3 grand to buy a ragged piece of cloth?!?! Thats why I prefer window shopping... ;-)

You see any fashion show done by the leading designers of this planet...you can see a lotta clothing which cannot be worn by any normal human being... Not everyone one is a normal person who is living in an abnormal world,you see... then why design such clothes?!?! I am unable to relate to any of their line of clothes...such gross waste of money and material!! I am not against designing something which can be worn by normal people as daily-wear...

This reminds me of the clothing our heroines wear in the bollywood film industry nowadays... Its even a shame to call that piece of cloth as costume.. and for this, they have a designated costume-designer... There is so much sleaze in the film industry nowadays that everyone is trying to out-do it to get a better profit... and it only gets worse... I cant even imagine our film industry after 20 years... I wish these ppl leave something for our imagination... ;-)

Monday, June 19, 2006

That wonderful thing called Marriage!!!

I have started advising marriage to all my single friends... Almost everyone who is single will be told by their married friends to "make hay while their sun shines"... esp. guys. That is because one looks at marriage as a loss of freedom. But why?!?! Consider it as a different way of life...

Marriage does come with untold expectations and responsibilities. Only people who have the maturity to face life as it comes should step into the world of marriage. Marriage is not for escapists. It is for people who are willing to face situations and take decisions. It is for people willing to compromise with a happy heart for the one they love.

But, very often we become hypocrites without realising so. We expect how we should be treated in marriage.But we forget to cross-check if we are treating our spouses the same way. Often it is the most trivial of things that will affect our happiness in marriage. All we have to do is to realise when things are going wrong and decide to make amends for it.

Life is fun when you share it with someone... You live your life, achieve great heights professionally, go through a lotta experiences... but what is the point if you dont have anyone to share it with?!? As they said in a movie, "We need a witness to our lives... and that is why we need marriage..."