How often have you found yourself in a relationship in which you feel that you are only giving and not getting anything?! Have you ever felt exhausted in any relationship?!? There are lotsa hearts sailing in this boat...
But why do we get this feeling?? Any relationship - be it love or friendship- is a give and take thing. It is in the hands of the people involved in the relationship to keep this equation balanced on both the sides...
What is meant by "giving"?? Giving doesnt only mean the exchange of expensive gifts, treats, candle light dinners et al... It also includes the simple things in day-to-day life, as simple as a phone call to your beloved at the least expected moment, a cute SMS at the busiest hour of the day(no forwards, pls!!), a hand-written snail-mail, any pleasant surprise...any simple thing that has your personal touch...
Deeds which let the other person know that you were thinking of them when you weren't with them goes a long way in strengthening a relationship.It is the thought that goes with the deed that makes the other person's day. So, start acting on your thoughts.
What is meant by "taking"??It is the art of acknowledging whatever you've got from your friend or your beloved. Make them feel appreciated for their sweetness.Thank them and let them know that your day was made because of their thoughtful actions. Give them back you love in your own subtle way.
When do you feel exhausted?? You will feel exhausted when your friend or your love just seems happy in taking from you and gives you back less or even worse, nothing. Girls feel it the most because they love to be pampered and cherished. Therefore, a little neglect from the gentleman's side will seem like a colossal error to his lady. So, all ya men-folks out there, make a mental note of this!!
What do you do when you find yourself at the wrong end of the deal?!?Express your need to your partner in a subtle way without offending his/her feelings. Let them know that you love them still.Be not disappointed by their thoughtlessness the next time. Nobody can change themselves overnight. Give your partner the time he/she needs to evolve into a thoughtful person..
Do not let your relationship die because of something as simple as this. Do not let the "giving" and "taking" become an obligation. Let it be a favour, a pleasure you enjoy doing. Let it be subtle and spontaneous. It is this everyday romance that keeps the flame burning in any relationship.Everyone should give a look at the relationships we share with people around us and ask "when was the last time I did something nice to him/her?? Am I in emotional debt??Am I giving less??" Any imbalance is unhealthy.
If everyone gives more, then no one gets less... Let us make those who love us feel loved...
3 comments:
this is xactly wht i feel too but wht if th other person who takes doesnt respond to ur feelings?how shud v react?
i react with tears but even then it doesnt effect tht person,so does tht mean tht person doesnt love me???
but he says he loves me n guys dont show their love as gals do..
m confused n get irritated when ever this topic comes!!!
chalo
gud tht i have a company
Radha,
nice to see you comment here..
One thing that one can do is not to depend too much on the other person for our happiness.. Untold expectations are never understood easily...so, voice your concern and be answered...
A serious piece indeed.
Well the best way (IMHO) is to not expect nething in return. Give your friend/partner/the relationship all you can without expecting nething at al in return.
One way to ensure that the "giving" and "taking" does not become an objigation.
Works for me :)
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