Why do I want to do so many things at a time?!

Is it because I am a Gemini?! You have no idea how many things I have started but never finished... When I was a kid, I wanted to be a painter...I pestered my parents to get me water-colors, paint-brushes et al...only to see them lying in a dusty corner of my house a month after. Then I started learning Piano...for a lil more than 2 years...gave up piano classes to concentrate better on studies...

I was doing some embroidery on and off till I went to college I learnt it mostly from my mom and other DIY books...In college,I took up tatting from a friend of mine.I made some really cute edgings,book-marks and dat was all... I also did some tapestry...made frames of scenaries...Then there was a long break after which I started doing some glass-painting. I made some frames of abstract and non-abstract images..

Presently, I have shifted my attention to knitting. I am planning to join knitting classes and feed my fire.. ;-) I never wanted or want to be the best in any art form. But I have to learn all of them. The moment I get the urge to learn something, I move heaven and earth to get the materials, research about it and start off.And mostly, I learn things on my own and out of my own interest.

One thing I have noticed is..I rarely keep the things I make to myself. It has always been gifted to some friend of mine or other. Maybe it is my way of showing dat I love..maybe I want ppl to appreciate the thought and the effort that went into that small piece of art... Maybe I want my gifts to be a lil personal...maybe I am a lil old-fashioned...

My EQ!!

My EQ is 133

50 or less: Thanks for answering honestly. Now get yourself a shrink, quick! 51-70: When it comes to understanding human emotions, you'd have better luck understanding Chinese. 71-90: You've got more emotional intelligence than the average frat boy. Barely. 91-110: You're average. It's easy to predict how you'll react to things. But anyone could have guessed that. 111-130: You usually have it going on emotionally, but roadblocks tend to land you on your butt. 131-150: You are remarkable when it comes to relating with others. Only the biggest losers get under your skin. 150+: Two possibilities - you've either out "Dr. Phil-ed" Dr. Phil... or you're a dirty liar.

What's Your EQ (Emotional Intelligence Quotient)?

To my parents...

Jus a few days back I was thinking of my olden days...(not that I am very old)when I was in college...when my priorities were different...life was care-free then. I remember how lonely and petrified I felt when my parents left me at my college hostel and went away. Four years seemed like a millennium on dat day and yet I dont know how those four years flew away.

I learnt a lot in those four years. I learnt that you cannot trust everyone you see...that people come into and go out of your life and it is definitely your choice whether they will stay back in your life forever or not.

I also learnt that, even though parents seem like to be living in the previous century, it is good to listen to their words and obey them. It was those four years when I learnt to be independent...to take decisions of my own...realised that the world is filled with people, both good and bad.

I learnt not to regret the decisions I made for myself but to face its consequences head-on. I learnt to be true to myself..to follow my impulsive whims and desires with great zeal...to do justice to your role and responsibilities you have accepted...to enjoy life for the moment...which means to enjoy being a wife...to enjoy being a daughter...to enjoy being a daughter-in-law...to enjoy being a career-woman...to enjoy being a friend...a confidante..to enjoy life!

I learnt that God is there to help you through during tough times and His way of solving your problems are never your way of dealing with it and it is always better to leave troubles into His hands cos he is good at handling them for you. I learnt the valuable lesson that not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck...

My stay away from home made my visits to home precious. I am forever thankful to my parents for letting me stay away from home during those formative years of my life, for letting me learn life's lessons on my own...for letting me go... I still have a long way to go..but I do know that I have made a good start...

Thanks a lot, Mom and Dad...

I love you.

Some serious blogging!!

This piece of write-up was written by me years ago and I was looking for a medium to publish it... now that I blog here often, let me put it up here...

Love and be loved!!!

How often have you found yourself in a relationship in which you feel that you are only giving and not getting anything?! Have you ever felt exhausted in any relationship?!? There are lotsa hearts sailing in this boat...

But why do we get this feeling?? Any relationship - be it love or friendship- is a give and take thing. It is in the hands of the people involved in the relationship to keep this equation balanced on both the sides...

What is meant by "giving"?? Giving doesnt only mean the exchange of expensive gifts, treats, candle light dinners et al... It also includes the simple things in day-to-day life, as simple as a phone call to your beloved at the least expected moment, a cute SMS at the busiest hour of the day(no forwards, pls!!), a hand-written snail-mail, any pleasant surprise...any simple thing that has your personal touch...

Deeds which let the other person know that you were thinking of them when you weren't with them goes a long way in strengthening a relationship.It is the thought that goes with the deed that makes the other person's day. So, start acting on your thoughts.

What is meant by "taking"??It is the art of acknowledging whatever you've got from your friend or your beloved. Make them feel appreciated for their sweetness.Thank them and let them know that your day was made because of their thoughtful actions. Give them back you love in your own subtle way.

When do you feel exhausted?? You will feel exhausted when your friend or your love just seems happy in taking from you and gives you back less or even worse, nothing. Girls feel it the most because they love to be pampered and cherished. Therefore, a little neglect from the gentleman's side will seem like a colossal error to his lady. So, all ya men-folks out there, make a mental note of this!!

What do you do when you find yourself at the wrong end of the deal?!?Express your need to your partner in a subtle way without offending his/her feelings. Let them know that you love them still.Be not disappointed by their thoughtlessness the next time. Nobody can change themselves overnight. Give your partner the time he/she needs to evolve into a thoughtful person..

Do not let your relationship die because of something as simple as this. Do not let the "giving" and "taking" become an obligation. Let it be a favour, a pleasure you enjoy doing. Let it be subtle and spontaneous. It is this everyday romance that keeps the flame burning in any relationship.Everyone should give a look at the relationships we share with people around us and ask "when was the last time I did something nice to him/her?? Am I in emotional debt??Am I giving less??" Any imbalance is unhealthy.

If everyone gives more, then no one gets less... Let us make those who love us feel loved...

Metro-shopping!!!

How often have you been traumatized by the price-tag of a piece of bling jewellery in a hi-fi metro shopping mall?!? The other day I entered a pricey "vidheshi" outlet only to find dat a gypsy skirt which looked like a piece of rag dat my dog plundered, costs around 3k in INR. Looks like they are selling it in Dollars... lol... Why wud any moron pay 3 grand to buy a ragged piece of cloth?!?! Thats why I prefer window shopping... ;-)

You see any fashion show done by the leading designers of this planet...you can see a lotta clothing which cannot be worn by any normal human being... Not everyone one is a normal person who is living in an abnormal world,you see... then why design such clothes?!?! I am unable to relate to any of their line of clothes...such gross waste of money and material!! I am not against designing something which can be worn by normal people as daily-wear...

This reminds me of the clothing our heroines wear in the bollywood film industry nowadays... Its even a shame to call that piece of cloth as costume.. and for this, they have a designated costume-designer... There is so much sleaze in the film industry nowadays that everyone is trying to out-do it to get a better profit... and it only gets worse... I cant even imagine our film industry after 20 years... I wish these ppl leave something for our imagination... ;-)

That wonderful thing called Marriage!!!

I have started advising marriage to all my single friends... Almost everyone who is single will be told by their married friends to "make hay while their sun shines"... esp. guys. That is because one looks at marriage as a loss of freedom. But why?!?! Consider it as a different way of life...

Marriage does come with untold expectations and responsibilities. Only people who have the maturity to face life as it comes should step into the world of marriage. Marriage is not for escapists. It is for people who are willing to face situations and take decisions. It is for people willing to compromise with a happy heart for the one they love.

But, very often we become hypocrites without realising so. We expect how we should be treated in marriage.But we forget to cross-check if we are treating our spouses the same way. Often it is the most trivial of things that will affect our happiness in marriage. All we have to do is to realise when things are going wrong and decide to make amends for it.

Life is fun when you share it with someone... You live your life, achieve great heights professionally, go through a lotta experiences... but what is the point if you dont have anyone to share it with?!? As they said in a movie, "We need a witness to our lives... and that is why we need marriage..."

Bad drivers 007 - licensed to kill

Only after we bought a car did I realise what a menace the other drivers on the road are.. Last night, we bought a car and drove back home. I was very gingerly with my car. All these years, I have taken my father's car for a drive, I never felt the funny feeling in my stomach...a feeling that nothing should happen to the car and of course, the ppl inside the car. ;-)

The road-users here are maniacs waiting to pounce on the fellow road-users... Not a single person has proper road sense here. I am surprised...Is it because of lack of education and awareness or is it because of the eternal need of man to hasten things up..?!?! Education goes a long way in creating an awareness in people's mind, be it road-sense or anything...

The funniest part is even educated people are also behaving like maniacs. Last night, we were stuck in a bad traffic jam which is unusual here. The reason was: A narrow railway bridge being constricted by road-users of both the lanes. I dont know who came to the conclusion that by hogging both the lanes of the road, one can get home faster. C'mon.. it is common sense that going in a single file will free-up the ceongestion.

where are the educated people in this town?? I have to be very careful driving in this town.I dont wanna get my car scratched at the sides... The problem is even if you are careful, you cant help it if the others around you are maniacs... sigh!!!

blogging after a long time...

life has changed and I have to look after a family now. I have to cook for one more person and take care of them... managing a career and family is a delicate thing. The main secret behind a successful career woman is keeping the work-life and the family-life separate. Dont bring your work-space issues to your home and dont bring your family issues to your work. Thats the best one can do to juggle between work anf family... And thats what I am doing...happily.. :-)

I am blank..

Why do I go blank when I sit down to write a blog?!?! Beats me!!!

Relationships - they make you or break you!!! How do we handle bad relationships?? The sad part is we realise it is a bad relationship only when things start getting outta hands... and by the time we decide to call it off, the damage would have been done...

Human mind is the most complex thing ever known to man. No two persons think alike in this world... No two relationships are same either. The more we move with a person, the more we tend to like them. Familiarity is the essential ingredient in a relationship in its budding stages. This stage is called the "Out of sight, Out of mind - stage". This is when the first impression is made which decides the future of a relationship.

Then comes the "Wanna know you better - stage". This is when we get in touch with each other often and gradually get to know the other person. We compare our likes and dislikes. We decide whether we can handle the other person's thought-process, their likes and dislikes. This stage forms the foundation for any relationship.

Then comes the "Cant live without you - stage". This is the stage where people start getting possessive of the other. Expectations run high and girls start thinking about commitments and long-term plans... Days wont go well if we dont hear from the only person who means the world to us. Guys will be freaked out if girls bring up the topic of commitment - not ony at this stage, at any stage, unless they arent serious. If the guy start distancing himself from the girl after they discussed about commitment, it is better to let him go. He is not the kind to settle down with. If he decides to stick to you, but still doesnt wanna commit, give him another chance and wait as long enough as you can.

But, dont keep fooling yourself that you dont have any feelings for the other person, cos there will come a time when you have to take decisions for your life and you will be left in a lurch. Decide what you wanna do with the other person and then proceed. Otherwise, you will end up hurting yourself or the other person. Dont give the other person false hopes. After all, life should be hassle-free.

Then comes the "Life is good-stage". The more the relationship falls into a routine, the more you will be lulled by a feeling of security, till reality wakes you up with a jolt. I am trying not to be a pessimist about relationships, but reality bites, doesnt it?? Both of you are comfortable with each other and understand how the other person works and handle each other better. There will be some "Gosh!! Am I lucky or wat- days" and some "God!! Gimme a break- days" and life goes on like this.

Then comes a time when you have to really decide on the course of your life and ask the other person about their plans with you. This is called the "Please say Yes - stage". This stage might end in bliss or break-up which reminds me to talk about break-ups. Break-up teaches you to be stronger and makes you realise how strong you are. Let me tell you, you will be surprised to know how strong you are. Studies show that women are better people in handling emotional stress. But this doesnt mean that they are happy in moving on after a break-up. A break-up affects both the sexes equally. It is the extent to which we let it affect us, decides how we move on and how good we can handle it.

There is no point in prolonging a relationship which doesnt make you happy. There are two types of break-up according to me - the one that happens when you are still in love and the one that happens after you have started hating each other. The latter is easier to handle. The former leaves you traumatised... But, dont give up hopes. There is always a better person waiting for you. I dont believe in the thought..."Let go of a person. If they come back to you, they are yours. If they dont, they never were.."

Loving and losing are part of lessons life teaches us... Dont miss it. Lucky are the ones who learn it the hard way... Keep learning!!!

Ciao!!!

Trying to cheer myself up..

I have been a bit moody these few days and I want to cheer myself up... Have been binging on chocolate like there is no tomorrow. Wat is it with this chocolate and mood-swings?!?!

Let me divert myself from my mood...

How does it feel to be a tech-illiterate in this tech-savvy world?!?! Do you feel handicapped?!?! Can you do without Email and Telephone for a day?? Maybe a day or two.. but No!! not more than that... Not for people who have been growing with a good dose of technology... But YES!! yes for people who never felt the need of technology to a humungous extent.

My Mom and Dad are in their fifties and neither of them have an email account. Neither of them know how to go about a computer. And their line of work doesnt expect them to know comupters either. I call these people survivors, when every damn field of work is being invaded by computers.

There was a news article on a plan to digitize every thing on paper. Nothing beats the feel of curling up with your favourite book in your cosy bed. Can you snuggle with your PC or your Notebook?? NO!! I have so many e-books in my PC but I havent yet opened a single one of 'em. Nothing like the feel of writing a hand-written letter and receiving one... An e-mail, how much ever personal and intimate it might be, doesnt give the same feel as a snail-mail...

One doesnt have to travel back in time to keep the older means and medium of communication intact. One can find a balance between the older and modern medium of communication. So, go out and write a snail-mail to your beloved... put your thoughts in pen and paper... buy your all-time favourite book and settle down with a cuppa in your cosy couch and get lost in time...

Till then...
Ciao!!!

M's Acceptance of Banana Peel...

It might seem like a funny title... but acceptance is a virtue, which makes our lives simpler. It gives us less to worry about in our day-to-day life. But one should draw a line between acceptance and sacrfice. One should learn to say a NO, when one cant accept things in life. Acceptance helps us eat bananas without worrying about the peel!! and apples and oranges too!!! ;-)

Where are we going??

Young adolescent and teen-age is a crucial age which decides how we live the rest of our lives. Lucky are the people who happen to make meaningful relationships during this age. As we grow old, we stop making friends and start making just acquaintances. How many of us relate to these words?? Most of us, ain't we??

Long time...

Its been a long time since I entered the world of blogging. Its funny how life moves on... with its countless twists and turns. Trials and tribulations only make it worth living, I guess...